Are You a Victim?

Over the years, I have come to learn that I do not have to apologize to people for asking them to treat me and mine with respect. Because apologizing ratifies the negative behavior, and basically says that it’s okay. That beats the purpose.

I have come to realize that many times, I have been the victim, not necessarily because the other person was a practicing bully, but because I did not observe my own boundaries.

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Flush it away! Drops won’t work.

When we go to the bathroom, we flush the water closet after we’re done. That works. But suppose the same amount of water was added into the bowl one drop at a time. How well would that work? Would it work at all? Even if done over a long period of time? I doubt.

How about when a relationship with a friend has gone wrong? Will one word a day repair things? Isn’t a long, thorough conversation needed to break down the wall, clear the forest in between, see eye to eye and then start rebuilding?

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Sweets…and Brushing Teeth

My daughter likes eating sweets. Sometimes she’ll have more than one a day. I usually tell her that it’s it’s not good for her health, especially her teeth. But she likes them anyway.

So today, after brushing her teeth, she went and got a huge lollipop, the ones that leave the mouth blue-colored. After licking it just once, she said, “Eeeew! This tastes so bad after brushing my teeth!”

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Shared Experiences…

Have you ever gone through something, wanted to talk to someone about it, but not been able to?

Maybe you’ve wanted to talk but no one’s wanted to listen. Or they listened but did not believe you. Or treated your experience as though it was a minor thing.

Or you wanted to talk about it but were afraid because of the image it would create or destroy… Such dark and scary skeletons.

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