What’s So Golden About Silence? Everything.
You can’t fault silence,neither can you regret it. You experience no guilt about something that you did not say. You do not mess up your character or reputationyou do not assume responsibilities for promises you made. You do not have to sooth or undo any pains that may have otherwise been caused. There are no words to take back, no regrets,no-one is disrespected.
You gain a lot too. You have time to ponder, think, meditatechoose your wordscause of action wisely. You have time to consult before deciding,you do not get to air the dirty laundry of your every thoughtemotion. You can cover your private stuff – goodbad,also not end up revealing certain things prematurely.
The bible says that the person who keeps his mouth shut is deemed intelligent. Silence makes you appear mature, contained, sober, pulled together, cool, calm, collectedcorrected. Silence can help you avoid future debts by not making hasty promises.
Lack of silence in some situations can be very costly. In friendships, it can lead to loss of value, trust,other benefits when unfitting words are spoken. In marriage, wrong speech can lead to disrespect, pain,many woundsregrets. In cross-gender relationships, silence at the right time can prevent the beginning of inappropriate innuendos that lead to illicit relationships. At the workplace, careless talk can lead to the loss of one’s job after perpetually destroying one’s character. In parenting, wrong hurtful words can lead to great hurt, painlasting scars. In business, silence can help in the acquisition of better deals whereas hasty, desperate talk can lead to loss of opportunities or lead to minimal profit where there could have been so much more.
When interacting with people, it is good to first hear out the other person, learngain wisdom. Talking too much tires the other person. Exercising silence at the right places makes you a refreshmentnot a bore or a heavy weight to bear. It also helps you to not sell yourself wrong, by responding to the right questionsinvitations in the appropriate way rather than just going ononon about yourself. It is good to learn to be a good conversationalisthave a healthy amount of givingtaking in conversations. It is quite tiring to have to pacify or assure someone for the bigger part of the conversation. Be confident about what you are sayinggenerally about yourself,do not seek too much affirmation from others. It is exhausting. Keep calm, don’t be hysterical or too excited. Control yourself. Be patient. Said another way, do not be impatient. Good things come to those who wait.