Mentoring is a relationship in which the more experienced person imparts knowledge into a less experienced person.
Nature of Relationship
This is a mutually beneficial relationship because the mentee gets to learn and save a lot of time because of avoiding potential mistakes, and the mentor gets to leave a legacy and keep growing in his/her area of expertise.
The relationship can work, but it will only work as much as the mentee wants it to work. As the mentee, you will get out of the relationship what you want.
In many cases, the mentors are able and eager to help, but they are also very occupied at their level. For you to get to learn from them, you have to lobby for their time, and once you get it, make the most of it.
- Have ready questions for the mentor
- Complete your assignments from previous meetings and conversations
- Do your research so that you are not asking basic, elementary questions
- Go beyond your assignment and do something more. This is not a class, in which the teacher has the curriculum. This is your life. Be creative and grow as much as you possibly can. Do not just limit yourself to what the mentor says or offers. The mentor is like a guide. He or she will share his/her experiences with you, but it is up to you to draw the lessons from that and catalyze that with your own experience and enjoy the blast of flavor that will result.
Mentors can add a lot of value into our lives, but it is up to us to chase them and learn from them. The more diligent a mentee is, the more time and value he/she will get from the mentor.
If, as a mentee you expect the mentor to follow you, you might be greatly disappointed. As mentors, we are also bound by the word of God, to entrust to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. (2Tim.2:2) Are you faithful as a mentee? Can you be trusted to teach others? If so, you’re in for a great ride. If not, then pruning is on the way for you… ” And every branch that does not bear fruit will be cut off.” (John 15)
Now you know. The ball is in your court! Choose this day how your mentoring experience will be.