By Christine Caine
Do you remember the first time you got rejected, perhaps when you were a child? And how awful that felt, and how you wanted to run and hide? And though you were not the one who did the rejecting, an awful sense of shame blanketed itself over you and you wanted to run and hide?
And perhaps this went on and there was some abuse at some point – be it physical, psychological, emotional….and it all left you feeling so bad, and ashamed?
Well, so did Christine Caine. She went through all that, but God helped her to overcome it. She shares her journey in this book, Unashamed, about how God delivered her from the bondage of shame, and she is now able to walk in confidence. God can do the same for you too!!
Written in a candid, captivating way, the book will have you glued till the end. And as you rea, you will experience a myriad of emotions as you identify with her, and see yourself in her stories and those of others.
Shame keeps us from trusting others in a bid to be self-sufficient and self-protective; and also wanting to be in hyper control of everything. Here are a few questions to check yourself.
What part of your soul do you have hidden away in a double-padlocked impenetrable safe?
Shutting down in your marriage?
Giving your husband the silent treatment?
Medicating the pain with prescription drugs?
Becoming critical of other people?
Being overly compliant, and living in denial?
Avoiding close friendships to remain in hiding?
Remaining on the treadmill of performing for approval?
What destructive behaviors and patterns do you keep repeating?
Dating anyone and everyone like crazy?
Lashing out at your children?
Watching TV endlessly?
What do you keep striving to achieve to soothe your wounded soul? – Competing with your colleagues? Secretly celebrating when friends “get what they deserve”?
And here’s some of the healing that Christine has experienced.
My wounded heart that once sought comfort and validation in busyness, accomplishment, achievement, and perfectionism is finding peace instead in God’s accomplishments and his perfection. My hands that once held so tightly to the reins of control are learning to loosen their death grip, and to guide more and control less. The heart that was so full of fear, doubt, insecurity, low self-esteem, anger, bitterness, unforgiveness, and rejection is being softened. Many of its walls have been torn down, leaving more room inside for love, joy, peace, and patience. I’ve been learning that I don’t need to be on guard to defend myself. Rather, I can allow the Holy Spirit to become my defense mechanism, because only God can do the impossible and tear down walls. I’ve discovered that I was not created to bear shame, that Jesus bore it for me. I’ve been letting God rebuild my true identity according to the Word as his beloved daughter, precious and redeemed.
I wish the same healing for you, too; for us all, really.